January 01, 2014

New Years Resolutions

Bye Bye 2013
You will be missed...
You completed my family, allowed me to reach several professional goals, and you gave my family great memories.

Hello 2014.
You are full of hope and promise for "better" ness.

My friends at Freebielicious and I want to share some of our goals and resolutions for 2014 with you! To help you get a jump start on the new year we've also added some freebies that may help you reach your own similar goals. 

My resolutions for home should be get more sleep.
That would mean I would have to give up something.
Motherhood? Nope
Blogging? Nada
TpT? Ain't gonna happen
I just can't make this my resolution because I am an overachieve and I want to accomplish my goal.
{Better-ness in 2014 right?}

Here is an amazing quote about parenthood
 And it is so true...
One day E will sleep through the night.
It isn't going to be any time soon, but one day! {haha... it may never happen!}
And one day my kids will want to hang out with their friends instead of me.
And one day they will stay out so late I will have to wait up half the night for them to come home.
And one day they will move out and have a family of there own.

I can sleep then. I am grateful I get to be a mommy to two sweet girls even if that means no sleep!
Which brings me to actual resolution.



My personal resolution is to show and teach gratitude. I am so grateful for so many things in my life, but I know I am doing a poor job at SHOWING this gratitude. How do I know? My daughter isn't as grateful as she could be. I am not modeling this virtue for her and she is lacking this HUGE element in her life.  Entitlement is typical at age 4, but we are going to spend 2014 showing our gratitude for things we have and working for things we want.

To help me remember to show and teach gratitude, I made this sign to post in my room and in S's bathroom.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B0xbOAza470GeTlBQ24yNEpqNTQ/edit?usp=sharing

But the sign is just one step.


One of our steps in this goal is to change S's chore chart. She previously earns check for completing chores. When she gets her goal amount, she earns a prize from the prize bag.

We are changing her chore chart to a plus and minus chart.
She has chores she has to do to earn her allowance. Then she can earn more by completing more things. {Showing gratitude is one of her pluses.} And she can get some taken away by not following our basic family rules.

We decided to move from a prize bag to an allowance to start to teach S the value of money. If she wants to get a toys, she needs to buy it with her money. If she wants to play a game at a restaurant, she needs to spend her money.

We also plan on having her buy gifts for others with her money, hence the plus category.


I also plan on doing activities with her to show gratitude towards others regularly. How?
We are going to start by saying "Thank you."
 We need to look people in the eye to say thank you and give the reason why.
We need to write thank you cards.
We need to do acts of kindness to others like bake cookies for our local firefighters.
We need to donate books to out local library.
 We need to give to others who don't have as much as we do.

Since our lives are busy {like yours} I had to plan ahead on this area.
We overlook so many important people everyday!
{I am thinking about S's Sunday school teacher who gives up two hours a weekend every week to teach S about The Bible. When is the last time we told her thanks?}

Here is what I did.
 I took a small Christmas gift bag and left over Christmas notecards. I wrote one person or helper on each card. I added the trash men, our sister, other family members, and even community helpers.
I also added two special cards that say RAK for Random Acts of Kindness and a heart for someone who in on our heart or has touched our heart. All these cards are folded and in our bag.
We can pull a card once a week and find a way to say thank you to that person/s.
{This is not just about giving gifts and spending money, just about showing gratitude.}


I need to SHOW S when we tithe to church, instead of just doing it without telling her about it.
I need her to help carry donated items to charity.
I need her to help pick out the canned food items to donate.
I need her to give gifts to those special friends at school who need a helping hand.
I need her to help pick out gifts for others and write the card to them.



And lastly, we are going to start writing down one thing a night we are grateful for in a journal. This is already a part of our prayers, but I want to extend it to others more and practice her writing skills at the same time.

I got a journal S played with around the house and tore out the used sheets. I put it beside her bed with a marker. When we say our prayers, we will each write something we are grateful for. {This will get in my showing and my teaching resolution.}


 I am in the habit of just "doing things" and checking it off the list. 
I am not showing my gratitude to my girls.
{And sometimes I don't want attention from others for random acts of kindness, I just want to be kind.}

Hop on over to one of the sweetest bloggers I know,
 Jennifer from First Grade Blue Skies for another resolution and matching freebie!
http://firstgradeblueskies.blogspot.com/

  Mary Amoson, Sharing Kindergarten

http://sharingkindergarten.com/
http://www.facebook.com/SharingKindergarten

11 comments:

  1. Love this blog hop! What a great idea! Thanks so much for sharing!

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  2. What a wonderful example you are setting for your daughters Mary. You've made some great resolutions.
    Marsha
    A Differentiated Kindergarten

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  3. Great ways to do things together. Love it!

    -Lidia
    Kinder Alphabet

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  4. You are always so sweet! I need to remember to appreciate every day =)
    Jennifer
    First Grade Blue SKies

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  5. What a great idea! You'll daughters will learn so much from this. You are such an amazing example for them!

    Erin
    Creating & Teaching

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  6. I love your ideas! I would love to see an example of your chore chart if you don't mind. I have been wanting to change my daughter's up for awhile but am running out of ideas!

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  7. Love these resolutions! You definitely inspire me friend!!

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  8. I love your dedication to showing your children gratitude and chores and tithing. When my daughter was 4 she earned nickels for doing chores. At the end of each week she could get a max of $2 and half of that was saved for church and gift buying for others. The other half she saved all summer that year to buy a Roller Blade Barbie. *sigh* Wish those days were still here- she is 25 now! Thanks for sharing this post with us!

    Carol

    Teachers Are Terrific!

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  9. I agree - we all have so much to be thankful for every day. God really convicted me of this last Christmas, so last year, I started the 365 Day Thankfulness Challenge on Facebook. I created a page where people can post what they are thankful for each day. It was really a challenge, but I was able to post each day in 2013 at least one thing I was thankful for. I am continuing this in 2014. Feel free to check it out!
    Teachin' First

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